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sunmagnet
joined 13 Nov 2007
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Posted by sunmagnet, 13:22 15 November 2007

i am so depressed, i cant eat, cant stop crying,feel stupid-im on everything that can possibly help me but to no avail! this is my fourth year with full blown sad and im fed up! there is no way out!!

Piglet
joined 12 Oct 2006
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Posted by Piglet, 13:30 15 November 2007

I live with it because I don't have any choice. This is the life I have and I have to make the best of it.

A few years ago, one of my childhood friends lost his wife (S) to cancer, she was 33, they were made for each other and had a fantastic relationship. At the same time another very close friend of the same age was undergoing treatment for breast cancer.

The day my friend rang me to tell me that his wife had lost her battle with cancer, I felt like crawling into bed and hiding under the duvet and not ever coming out, I couldn't believe that life could be so unfair.

Then I realised that S would have given anything to have lived and seen her family grow, she had fought through everything that life had thrown at her over the years and I had to keep going in her memory and for all of those who don't have the option to live.

Sorry, I know that's a bit morbid but when I feel down and I struggle to keep going I think of S (and my mum who died at 48) and realise that all the time my heart is beating in my body, I have one option and that is to live the life I have to the full because they didn't have the choice.

As the famous line goes "life is not a rehearsal".

Cheer up chick, we all have bad days, weeks and months - I'm really struggling this week but you have to make the best of it and keep going xxx

Me
joined 29 Oct 2007
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Posted by Me, 13:43 15 November 2007

Dont worry chuck, we are all on the journey with you, you arnt alone. Sit tight on our rollercoaster and endure the ride of emotion together.

Please remember that SAD is treatable.

If the medication/treatment isnt working you need to adjust it with doctor. There will be something that helps.

Exercise will definately help. The best thing is that the more you dont want to do it, the more benefit youll get from it. Just remember that- itll help. Once you start, keep it up, cause once you stop, youll get out of the habit.

Bet your not getting enough quality sleep too. See if you can find a way.

Keep plucking away.

Lots of support to catch you if you fall seems to help too. Just knowing that people are around to help is a great help.

Ive had it for 30+ years. Acceptance comes slowly (I have now accepted that I have SAD, but I still have trouble asking for help).

Oh gosh, use the lightbox, have you got natural light bulbs. I ordered the wrong ones for my box, and the ones they sent werent nearly as bright as my old natural light ones.

Flower, look forward to the future, its only a temporary measure, and you know that you will be fine soon.

Ill tell you one thing about SAD and us, our lives will never be boring!!!!
MEx

PurpleIvy
joined 16 Mar 2005
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Posted by PurpleIvy, 13:44 15 November 2007

What lovely words Piglet!

Jo
joined 9 Jan 2007
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Posted by Jo, 14:35 15 November 2007

We all have felt like this at some time hun.

When at the worst, you can't imagine ever feeling better, and everyone else around you seems so happy. All you want to do is feel happy too.

You know that you can feel better. Can you think of something that made you feel really happy, perhaps in the summer on holiday? This will prove to you that this is a temporary upset, and you will feel better soon.

If you have just started to take medication, it will take a while for it to start working, until then I am afraid that you have to ride with the storm.

There are little things that you can do in the mean time. Be around someone who understands, try and distract yourself for a few minutes, talk to somone, talk to us on here because we are the experts!

I know it feels awful now hun, but you will feel better soon and remember that having a good cry is nothing to be afraid of, it might even make you feel better. I've done it loads this week.

Just a little tip that I learnt, if you feel up to it, why don't you keep a diary of your feelings. Give yourself a score out of 10 every day, 0 being the worst and 10 being the best. Then in a few days time you can go back and read how you felt then and hopefully you will see that there has been an improvement.

Take care hun and come back on here whenever you need to talk x

paulst
joined 5 Oct 2005
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Posted by paulst, 16:24 15 November 2007

HI sunmagnet we are all with you, its hard but treatable, do you use a lightbox? there are several types of medication available. If you are already doing that,it will get better, stay with us, keep posting and we can all beat it together.

Suzie
joined 26 Jan 2007
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Posted by Suzie, 18:25 15 November 2007

Big hugs Sunmagnet.

It's like being in a deep hole, if you tried to get out of it on your own it would be difficult. With the help of others it would be easier. We will all work together to make each others winter more bearable.

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