can't cope

I feel that i can not cope with this. My kids seem to all be arguing at the min when i am with them.My family say thay r not is it me? I do not have the energy to cope with them. Will this ever get better? I am New to this i feel life is getting worse noy better. Any advice would be good.

hi me, yes just been told that i am suffering from sad and depression from my doctor.
I do look after the kids full time
and on citalopram 20mg.
the kids never was this bad but since a year ago when i started to get this it has all gone down hill.

Hi ya again

Try not to worry too much about the kids, cause itll make you worse. Try to involve the children. I let mine know how I was feeling, when I was short tempered and that we needed to work as a team to get through.

Two of mine were also at a stage where they like to receive stickers(Thomas the Tank, and Dr Who, that they stick in special books from newsagents) when they have gone something smashing. I keep them in a musical box and they have great pleasure in opening the box themselves and the music starts playing. I congratulate them on their success and they feel good.

My oldest works differently, he gets pocket money each week + some extra if I feel that he has been particularly helpful.

You will then get lots of the help that you need around the house. You will all be working as a team, and everyone is happier.

Hugs to ya flower, I really do know bad you are feeling.

As you are feeling down at the moment, you might receive all this as criticism, please dont as its certainly not meant to sound like that (I think parents get knocked enough by society as it is!). Youre doing a hard, thankless job, and that shows that you are fantastic too ( I know that cos Im a mum too)X

This will pass, stick with it ...

Me x

Hi All yes i am feeling very low at the minute and yes i have had depression before being digonised with sad.Thanks for the advice Me it has helped.i never said anything to my girls because i felt as i was failing as a mother. But i can see how telling them how i feel can help i will try that one. Many thanks to you all again.

I wish I could think straighter to try and give you better advice and comfort, but alas my head is full of fog.

But you asked if it will get better, and yes, it has to get better. There are some absolutes in life and one is that what goes up must come down, that things only stay good for so long, but they also only stay bad for so long too. If you like the Bible for comfort, there is a scripture that says sums that up, "This too shall pass".


jeanne

Thanks jeanneincanada where in the bible is that i would like to look it up xxxxx

You can try one to see if it works from some companies - but beware you may not want to give it back..

Another option I have heard of on this website, dont know for sure though, some docs (in uk) are starting to issue them on NHS - worth a check!

The cheaper options normally require a lot longer in front of them to get a good affect. So its worth waying up the pros and cons.

There are alot of different lightboxes out there, so it really depends on what you want. I would suggest portable, and at least 10,000lux. There is a lot of info on light boxes on this website, flick through.

I saw a cheap one on the internet at Argos. It is 10,000 lux, mentions SAD, but I dont know how good it is.

Mine is an expensive version, so I cant recommend that.



Me x