Feelings of shame/regret

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AF2008
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Posted by AF2008, 14:55 31 January 2008

Have been feeling a bit better over the last few days having used my lightbox and had a weekend away in Edinburgh. Not having a good day today though, I've been feeling very low and self critical and can't stop thinking about things I have done in the past that I shouldn't have... just wondered if this is normal.
PurpleIvy
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Posted by PurpleIvy, 15:22 31 January 2008

I think it probably is normal AF2008. I think really at this time of year, I need to focus on things to come, rather things in the past that I can't change,

glad you are feeling a bit better.
AF2008
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Posted by AF2008, 15:27 31 January 2008

It's good advice and it's what I'm really trying to do... Just having difficulty with a couple of things and feel like I'm having a permanent panic attack at the moment.
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Posted by OBE, 16:05 31 January 2008

Yep!
I've got most of my symptoms under control or manageable after a couple years experimenting but the self criticism really bugs me. It's not there all the time but when it comes it can bite me on the arse for a week or so before it subsides.
I've made massive progress in the last four years and achieved a hell of alot for a saddie but the feelings of failure and inadequacy at this time of year are tedious to say the least.
I know people say you should take it easy but i'm starting to find that having little projects occupys ones mind and the positive result helps counteract these feelings. Obvious but there you go.
I've gutted my bedroom and redecorated it top to bottom, very hard but satisfying(for about 24 hrs lol)
I've now got no choice but to do my bathroom because i've ordered the bloody thing so that should get me by for a while.
I guess everyone suffers these feelings to some extent and finds their own way of coping, it's only temporary, so weather the storm is all i can say really.

Kindest regards OBE
Me
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Posted by Me, 17:46 31 January 2008

Yes, the symptoms are so familiar.

A got a booklet from the doctors which gave me a little help with do-it-yourself cognitive therapy. Took the edge of the feelings for most of the time, however if Im depressed proper then it gets too much.

I tend to exercise, do things Im good at, steer clear of situations that bother me. Sleep!, I also think learning to breathe differently helps too, so I reckon meditation would help you calm down.

Has anyone tried hypnotherapy?

Me x
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Posted by Nickyj14, 21:23 1 February 2008

AF2008, yes this sounds familiar, I can be very self critical during the winter and go over all the things I've said and done in my head.

Yes, me, I tried hypnotherapy for anxiety, it was brilliant. Have you tried it?
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Posted by Amalthea, 01:18 2 February 2008

Yes, I know what you mean. Self-critical and worried about what others think of me, too! We never really give ourselves a break, do we? Things can get pretty tough sometimes, and we beat ourselves up instead of licking our wounds.

I tell myself, "That's the SAD that's doing the talking." When I can tell myself that it's not really "me" that's being so nasty with myself, it usually helps to derail my self-abuse a bit.

I think sometimes our brains need a "reset" or even an "off" switch. Bzzzzt!
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Posted by Me, 21:45 2 February 2008

Yes as I said earlier, I know Im in deep when my rethinking cogitive therapy no longer works - times for the doctor then!

nO I havent tried Hynotherapy. Just thought it might be good, and wondered if my assumptions were true.

Me x

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