Relationships & SAD

What I hate about sad sometimes is you can't feel, you lose touch with your feelings and then you think am i falling out of love or is it just my sad? I read few other post seem other get this as well.

Seems alot relationships seem break up this time of year too. I know I've had a few finish in the winter

does take a special person to understand and deal with someone who got sad, feel like i have that just wish it wouldn't make me feel like this and doubt and wonder. horrible to feel numb and nothing.

have felt worse this winter than normaly, jan was'nt the best month, stress as pc went back to dell twice and had alot of college work that i could'nt do, and assignments and not enjoying college just causes stress plus health was'nt great so are other facotrs i guess

Not as if anything bad has happened between us either had fab Christmas together then i went down hill and started overanalyzing cause i couldn't feel all of a sudden which make things worse and heavy!

In fact had such good time Christmas was thinking of engagement for valentines but the way January made me and cause anxiety and doubt think best wait till summer!. just want to feel like did Christmas again and be me.

i've upped by st.johns wort and doing the lamp daily.

anyone else had simular things?

Jam,I think you need to hang in there until SAD season has passed. SAD messes with a person's thought process so bad. Know what you mean about feeling nothing as I've felt particularly flat this SAD season. Maybe it's the unusual number of really gray days we've had. Find myself just not wanting to be around anyone with the exception of my cat. But I know I've felt this way before and come April things start to look better..........

Hi B,

Firstly I would like to say not to be too hard on yourself. I too have suffered from SAD for years (since my teens) and I think what really helps is acceptance. This of course is difficult on bad days when feeling so low and not wanting to carry on feeling the way that you do.

Last year, my winter wasn't so bad but this year has been awful at times. I feel that after new year, I had a bit of depression and one Sunday, I was crying and just wanted to leave my lovely boyfriend of 3 years and leave my job then leave this country (England) to fly away from it all! The next day, I was feeling back to my normal self (happy and in control) and was so glad I didn't throw it all away.

I find telling my friends every winter that I cannot always make certain plans to meet and to sometimes not be surprised if I pull out last minute due to panic attacks etc and they understand me now. This puts less pressure on me.

I know its horrible to feel different in the winter but I feel not hating yourself and telling yourself that its not your fault and accepting this is how you may be at winter times is better for yourself.

Partners need to try to understand that its nothing personal but explain how SAD makes you feel.

I myself have just been out for a lovely walk in the sunshine and feel better.

I think using St.Johns Wort makes you photosensitive so be careful with light therapy. I have used a lightbox for years on and off except the last 2 years due to hating having to do so because I am stubborn lol!

I have been using 5 HTP (50mg) each night with breaks here and there and Nytol which has helped my insomnia (of Tecos Sleep-Aid which is the same ingredient but cheaper!)

I like to run alot which also helps keep my weight down especially due to carb cravings!

I think you have to try different things and see what works best for you. 10,000 lux is good for SAD and if you look at the shop on this website, you can find which light suits you best. Some websites let you hire the boxes if you don't want to buy straight away. I have an old lightbox from years ago and another old one from ebay!

Hope this helps and good luck,

Donna.

Hi Donna
Thank you for your very helpful message. Its only after speaking to my Brother who said he feels the same in the winter that i realised i suffer from SAD and im not some crazy looper. I always thought having SAD meant you felt a bit down in the winter and felt so much better in the summer.I did not realise that the panic attacks,serious lack of energy,loss of feelings, wanting to be left on my own was SAD. I am so glad to have checked out this site. It helps to know you are not alone and with help from a lightbox i will feel much better. I ordered one yesterday. I also found not using the blackout blind in my bedroom has made it a bit easier to get up in the morning. Thanks again.B