Really can't be ars

Hello everyone,

It's got to this stage of the year where very little is of concern and I feel like I have slowed r i g h t d o w n.......... Judging from the activity on the forum and chatroom there are a few of you in the same boat!

I can't even be bothered to finish this posting :roll: ................

Oh, Siddy.
Are you using a light-box or something like that? Every day?
(Mine is really helping me)
Love
calm

this is by far the worst part of the season

if my boys didn't need me so much i would quite happily go to sleep and never wake up.

if my boys didn't need me so much i would quite happily go to sleep and never wake up.

Sian ~ gosh I feel for you from the depth of my being and completely empathise. A couple of winters ago I got to that stage ... a living hell. But now really concentrate on how much your boys need and love you, and clinging to that buoyancy aid remember summer will come. Take one day at a time, do not push yourself, if things drift so be it, they will wait for you to do them later .. or latch on to anyone who offers help and take them at their word.

I read this, it may be helpful, but it does need deep thought, a comfy chair and eyes closed...

1 Remember a time when you did feel truly well and happy, no matter how long ago that was or no matter for how short a time. Imagine yourself back in that time so that you are seeing, hearing and feeling it as if you are there again now.

2 Allow yourself to fully experience the state of being in this time and place. Note how it feels exactly and where you feel this sensation. Decide on an image or sound or touch that will remind you of this emotional state in such a way that you will be able to recall it when you want. (You may need to step into the state a number of times - each time thinking of this image or word or touch that will remind you of what this feels like.)

3 Use this image/sound/touch as a trigger for better thoughts when you are so down.

4 Imagine yourself in that happy/content place, step forward into that time as if you were there now and see, hear and feel what this is like. Stay there a while ....

This I find relaxing and it helps me to become grounded again. Your type of agony is so hard, and I am not for a minute suggesting it is easy, but it's the only way I can think of to remotely help.

Take care, be well. Julie