I feel hopeless and helpless

Hello,

this weather is definitely making it difficult for me to get out of bed and has affected my mood. I am less than positive and feel pretty unmotivated. I would suggest this dark cloudy weather has brought on symptoms of your sad again too. I don't think it would hurt to go back to your doctors and explain how you feel.

Hi,
I feel really bad too. I have a boyfriend too but it just doesn't seem to help anything. I just blame everything on him. I feel like he hates me. He says he loves me. He just goes out with his friends and I just sit here. I have only one friend and I can't talk to her about anything. I dont really want friends -I don't want to talk to them, answer the phone, go anywhere. What should we do. You mention getting a hobby. That sounds like a good idea except everything I think of is so lame. I wish I was normal. If you want to talk let me know and I'll give you my email

That is an excellent idea, and it will definitely help. Crafts are esp. beneficial, but anything that you can get lost in and will distract from the negative "tapes" that run through our minds when swallowed in depression.

I started crocheting a few winters ago and its been huge in getting me through the darkest times that seem so endless. There is something very beneficial to the brain and our very neurotransmitters that are so awry when we get depressed. I think it helps restore them somewhat, but the total distraction and sense of accomplishment from the sheer bleekness of it all is huge. Its crochet for me and the quietness and rhythm of the hook is so soothing its better than any tranquilizer could be (they never did anything for me anyway I just feel zonked for days on them).

My Mom taught me as a kid just basics, and I'd dabbled on and off and hadn't done in 10 yrs. Now I do the most complicated patterns and love a challenge. I pretty much taught myself in the thick of a SAD winter. its amazing too, because I lose interest in most everything and can barely cook or get showered and my place gets really cluttered. But yet i can make beautiful garments.

I highly recommend trying some sort of craft. It may seem impossible now, I know how the motivation thing becomes nil, but once you launch and it catches, you'll barely want to do anything else. Maybe you have another latent artistic gift you shelved as a youth?


jeanne

Hi,
I feel really bad too. I have a boyfriend too but it just doesn't seem to help anything. I just blame everything on him. I feel like he hates me. He says he loves me. He just goes out with his friends and I just sit here. I have only one friend and I can't talk to her about anything. I dont really want friends -I don't want to talk to them, answer the phone, go anywhere. What should we do. You mention getting a hobby. That sounds like a good idea except everything I think of is so lame. I wish I was normal. If you want to talk let me know and I'll give you my email

omg! as i was reading your post it was as if i could have written it. you explained exactly how i feel and exactly how i treat my boyfriend. i didnt realise this was SAD tho, i thought i was just being a cow lol